Toys for couples: how to bring them into the bedroom comfortably
Updated 15 October 2026
Introducing a toy into a relationship is usually easier than people expect, especially when it is presented as something to explore together rather than a fix for a problem.
Start with a conversation
Choose a relaxed moment outside the bedroom. Talk about curiosity and what you would both enjoy, and make it clear that either of you can say no. Browsing a shop together is often an easy way to start.
Toys that suit couples
- Small vibrators: easy to include during foreplay or intercourse.
- Couples' vibrators: designed to be worn during penetration to stimulate both partners.
- Vibrating rings: worn at the base of the penis, they add vibration for both partners.
- App- or remote-controlled toys: one partner controls the settings, which adds an element of play, even at a distance.
- Massage oils and candles: a gentle first step. Remember that oil is not compatible with latex condoms.
Making the first time relaxed
- Charge the toy and read the instructions beforehand.
- Keep a water-based lubricant to hand: see our lubricant guide.
- Go slowly, check in with each other and keep it light-hearted.
Afterwards
Talk about what you liked and what you would change. Clean the toy and store it properly so it's ready for next time.
This guide is for general information only and is not medical advice. If you have pain, irritation or any health concern, speak to your GP or a pharmacist.
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