For couples

Toys for couples: how to bring them into the bedroom comfortably

Updated 29 October 2026

Introducing a toy into a relationship is usually easier than people expect, especially when it is presented as something to explore together rather than a fix for a problem.

Start with a conversation

Choose a relaxed moment outside the bedroom. Talk about curiosity and what you would both enjoy, and make it clear that either of you can say no. Browsing a shop together is often an easy way to start.

Toys that suit couples

Small vibrators: easy to include during foreplay or intercourse.
Couples' vibrators: designed to be worn during penetration to stimulate both partners. See our couples' vibrator pick.
Vibrating rings: worn at the base of the penis, they add vibration for both partners.
App- or remote-controlled toys: one partner controls the settings, which adds an element of play, even at a distance.
Massage oils and candles: a gentle first step. Remember that oil is not compatible with latex condoms.

Making the first time relaxed

Charge the toy and read the instructions beforehand.
Keep a water-based lubricant to hand: see our lubricant guide or go straight to the best water-based lubes.
Go slowly, check in with each other and keep it light-hearted.

Afterwards

Talk about what you liked and what you would change. Clean the toy and store it properly so it's ready for next time.

Watching something together

Some couples find that watching an erotic film together is an easy way to start talking about fantasies and what they enjoy. If you go down that route, choose content made with real consent and a focus on mutual pleasure: our guide to ethical porn explains what to look for.

This guide is for general information only and is not medical advice. If you have pain, irritation or any health concern, speak to your GP or a pharmacist.